Hi everyone,
Happy Sunday! Today I want to talk about toxic people. “Just like any toxic thing—like food or poison—toxic people are extremely dangerous,” Tara Mackey, author of Cured by Nature and founder of The Organic Life. As long as I remember I was gifted with the ability to get rid of toxic people in my environment as soon as they get close to me. Interacting with toxic people who constantly cut you down or manipulate you to their own advantage can take a toll on your own mental health. And yet, it can be difficult to distance yourself from them.”Toxic people can try to cling on—sometimes for years! They can make you feel guilty and because of that, are not always easy to remove from your life,” says Mackey. To help you detox your relationships once and for all, here are some of my tips for getting rid of harmful personalities.
1- Set boundaries
“Stick with your boundaries long-term or toxic people will use any weakness over time to sneak back into your life,” says Mackey. Once you’ve made the decision to end a relationship, you’re responsible for keeping the guidelines clear after the fact.
2- Be firm
“Toxins have to be met with a powerful force,” says Mackey. “It’s likely that they won’t just respond to ‘Go away,’ and will perhaps even dig their claws in deeper if you try to create a separation. Be very, very clear with the person about your intentions, then keep the necessary distance to make sure your message isn’t misconstrued.
3- Realize it’s not your job to save them
Toxic people are great at showing up when they need something, particularly during crisis moments in their own lives. “They’ll ask for a shoulder to cry on or an ear for you to lend. They may disguise it as wanting advice,” says Mackey. “All of these are ploys for your time and attention. Do not give in to them, no matter the circumstance.”
Now you may think I am rude but you are responsible for your own well-being. If you don’t take care of yourself you might end up with mental illness or worse become a toxic person yourself. So the choice is yours. Of course, you might want to help them seek for help if they are family or closed friends.
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So how do you deal with toxic people in your environment? Or are you (or have you ever been) in a relationship with a toxic people. Comment below and let me know how did you handle it.
Thanks for stopping by.
XoXo,
Moumous
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This camo vest is so darling! And these are great tips.
Thank you Shelly
Great post, Moumous! I have done some serious cleansing of toxic people in my life, much more in the past few years than ever before. I suppose it took gaining more life experience to realize which type of people are toxic. Setting clear boundaries and adhering to them actually can sometimes allow you to continue some sort of relationship with toxic people if they are people that you are unable to remove from your life. It is a skill that definitely grows stronger with practice. Also, I love your outfit! That camouflage vest is adorable and this outfit is absolutely something I would wear!
Shelbee
http://www.shelbeeontheedge.com
Thank you Shelbee – Indeed you won't be able to identify toxic people until you gain a certain level of life experience. For me, having a husband, 3 toddlers, 2-3 jobs made me quickly realize that not everything or not everyone for that matter worth wasting my time 🙂 – Glad to know you would wear this outfit 🙂
You are responsible for your own well-being indeed
I just ignore toxic people in my environment, no time for that…..
Indeed – we are all responsible for our well-being…
I got no time for that neither especially when they are neighbors lmao :-)…
I feel you….
What a fun vest!
Thanks so much for joining the #WeekdayWearLinkup! Hope that you are having a good weekend 🙂 Another hot one here, we had to leave the park as it was just too warm!
Away From Blue
aww thank you Mica 🙂
First off, I LOVE your vest and this whole outfit is just perfection! As far as toxic people, I've had my share over my lifetime and the most difficult part is getting rid of them – for good, as they are master manipulators and keep coming back. That said, once you are able to purge them from you life and put the relationship in the rear view mirror – a lightness takes place and we are able to focus on the good people in our lives – and give them more time. Great post!
xx
Suzanne
http://www.AskSuzanneBell.com
Indeed Suzanne, they master manipulation and they will seldom accuse you of manipulations lol. I am glad you are able to take control. Have a blessed Sunday 🙂
First off, I LOVE your vest and this whole outfit is just perfection! As far as toxic people, I've had my share over my lifetime and the most difficult part is getting rid of them – for good, as they are master manipulators and keep coming back. That said, once you are able to purge them from you life and put the relationship in the rear view mirror – a lightness takes place and we are able to focus on the good people in our lives – and give them more time. Great post!
xx
Suzanne
http://www.AskSuzanneBell.com
First off, I LOVE your vest and this whole outfit is just perfection! As far as toxic people, I've had my share over my lifetime and the most difficult part is getting rid of them – for good, as they are master manipulators and keep coming back. That said, once you are able to purge them from you life and put the relationship in the rear view mirror – a lightness takes place and we are able to focus on the good people in our lives – and give them more time. Great post!
xx
Suzanne
http://www.AskSuzanneBell.com